Solo Dating: More Than Just Self-Pleasuring

A few years ago, solo dating – as a word, at least – didn’t exist. Now it’s something which increasingly pops up on social media or in conversations between good friends. And while it sounds like something that a guy might engage in strictly as part of a tumescent male organ care regimen, the fact is that solo dating is not a synonym for self-pleasuring – even though self-pleasuring may be a big part of the experience.

What is it?

For the uninitiated, solo dating popped up in the lexicon a few years ago. It seems to have originated as a term used by women to describe a date with themselves – but it has since come to be applied to men as well.

The idea behind solo dating is that a person – for this article, that person will be assumed to be male – goes on a date with himself. That may seem silly to some, who may assume that solo dating is the same thing as pulling on a pair of sweatpants and picking up a burger and fries at the local fast food drive-through before heading back home to binge watch that show everyone keeps talking about.

That’s not solo dating – that’s just hanging out with yourself. When a guy solo dates, he goes through all the same motions he would going out with another person – the idea being that he wants to treat himself with the same respect and attention he lavishes on a date. So he should take a nice shower and scrub himself clean; shave (or, if he has facial hair, neatly trim); and take time to pick out clothing that shows off his best qualities.

Rather than run out to a greasy spoon, he should pick a nice restaurant and order a meal that really fits his taste buds. Instead of trundling home afterward, he should engage in an activity that interests him – seeing a movie, walking along the shore, bowling a few frames, etc.

And once home, if he feels he has been a good date, he might invite himself to engage in a little self-pleasuring. (In fact, it’s assumed that most people who solo date engage in a rather lengthy self-pleasuring session at the end. And why not reward themselves this way?)

Why do it?

So why should a dude solo date instead of just staying home and self-gratifying? Well, there’s nothing wrong with self-stimulating instead – but an occasional solo date might be beneficial to a person.

For one thing, it can be a lift to a guy’s spirits. If he’s feeling a little down, a solo date can allow him to pamper himself, to tell himself that he is special and deserves to be appreciated.

For another, it’s a focused amount of “me time,” but unlike me time that has only the goal of self-pleasuring, it gives a guy plenty of time and room to think. If something has been on his mind, he can really look at it and examine it. Even if there’s no one thing weighing on him, he still has the freedom to let his mind roam and to think and concentrate on whatever he wants; with only himself as a partner, there’s no need to worry about whether he’s keeping up his end of the conversation or if he might say the wrong thing.

Finally, he can do exactly what he wants to do without altering his plans to accommodate someone else. If he wants to spend half an hour skipping stones on a lake, he doesn’t have to worry about boring a partner. And, of course, when he gets to the self-pleasuring part of the evening, he can use whatever arousing methods he chooses and self-stimulate for as long as he wants to with no pressure to please anyone else.

Lengthy self-pleasuring (with or without solo dating) may lead to a sore manhood, so he should have a first rate male organ health creme (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) on hand. The best crème includes a combination of natural moisturizers (such as vitamin E and shea butter) to soothe a rubbed raw member. And one with neuroprotective L-carnitine can help prevent loss of manhood sensation form over-enthusiastic self-pleasuring.

Visit for additional information on most common male organ health issues, tips on improving manhood sensitivity and what to do to maintain a healthy member.  John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.


Author: John Dugan