Self-Pleasuring and Roommates: Working It Out

For the vast majority of men, self-pleasuring is a part of their lives. They may not self-stimulate every day or every week, but they like to know that when they have “the itch” they can take care of it. Unfortunately, in cases when guys are roommates, this can sometimes create a problem. Working out how roommates feel about and handle self-pleasuring is essential so the parties involved can continue to incorporate self-pleasuring as part of their male organ care routines.

Not always a problem

Of course, just because two dudes are roommates doesn’t mean that self-gratifying is going to be a problem. For example, if each guy has his own room – and therefore some guaranteed privacy – the issue may not be so important. Simply locking the door while self-indulging may be all that is required. If the doors don’t lock, they can set up a rule about knocking and waiting to be invited in instead.

This assumes, of course, that the roommates in question would find it a problem to walk in on one another self-fondling. Some guys don’t; they accept that they’re both going to self-gratify and don’t care if they’re “caught in the act.”

Ways to deal with it

But not all guys are so comfortable with their own self-pleasuring or with witnessing another guy in the act. And very often, especially in college or in big cities where rents are astronomical, two guys may be sharing one room, rather than having their own separate spaces with doors and locks.

In such situations, it pays to set up some ground rules. Even though it may be uncomfortable, one of the roommates needs to say, “Let’s talk about what we want to do when one of us wants to self-pleasure.” Although this can be difficult, it often can be rewarding. Some guys (though not all) find it really helps to talk openly about self-stimulating with someone else who acknowledges that they do the same thing.

Here are some of the basic options guys can consider:

•They’re going to be open and honest about it. Both guys acknowledge that they like to self-gratify and each one will do so whenever he feels like it. If watching adult videos on the computer is part of a guy’s session, they can set up rules about using headphones or earbuds to keep things quiet. And if one roommate needs to concentrate and finds the other’s self-pleasuring distracting, he’ll let his roomie know so he can delay his gratification till later.

•They’ll utilize the bathroom (and lock the door). This provides sufficient privacy for both roommates, but this arrangement may need some refinement. For example, if a roommate is into really long, extended self-pleasuring sessions, a time limit may need to be set or he may need to accept that he will be interrupted if nature calls for the other guy.

•They’ll put a sock on the door – or arrange some other signal that says “I’m self-fondling.” If one guy arrives home and sees the signal, he’ll know to delay his arrival so that he doesn’t interrupt. It’s probably a good idea to then send a text asking to know when the coast is clear – in case the roommate forgets to take down the signal when he’s through.

•They’ll be quiet. For some guys, the easiest way is just to self-pleasure after the lights go out and hope that they’re quiet enough that the other guy doesn’t notice. This has worked for countless roomies throughout the ages.

Whatever arrangement roommates come to regarding self-pleasuring, they need to make sure that their fondness for this enjoyable activity doesn’t lead to them being too rough. Guys can help protect their members from aggressive handling by daily use of a superior male organ health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Select a crème with moisturizing ingredients like Shea butter and vitamin E to protect the skin. The crème should also include L-carnitine, which is neuroprotective and helps restore lost sensation due to rough use.

Visit for additional information on most common male organ health issues, tips on improving manhood sensitivity and what to do to maintain a healthy member. John Dugan is a professional writer who specializes in men's health issues and is an ongoing contributing writer to numerous websites.